“It’s very simple – if you want the benefits of something, you have to also be ready to accept the costs.
What do you choose to suffer through? That’s the question… the most important question…”
What Do You Choose To Suffer Through?
I want to feel good. I want to be happy. I want to live a carefree life, to have amazing friendships, to fall in love, to have money, to look perfect… And I probably don’t want something different from feeling good, right? I guess everybody wants that. Everybody wants to feel good and have a good life. If I ask you, “What do you want?”, you would probably also start listing different things that will make you happy and will make your life better. But you know what? That doesn’t really mean much. Why? Because there is a more interesting question, which you’ve probably never thought about before. And that is, “What struggles do you want?”.
But, wait, what is that question? you may ask. Nobody wants struggles, right? We all want to live good. We don’t want to struggle with our 60-hour work week jobs, deal with tons of papers, clients, conflicts, repairs, home duties, and whatnot. We want to be rich, to be independent, to have a good life. Yet, we avoid risk, we don’t want to sacrifice our time, we are afraid of failure, we avoid to put that extra effort and try something new. And, of course, we end up back in our infinite rat race circle. We want good relationships, yet we avoid tough conversations, brutally honest truths, the awkward moments, the hurt feelings and the drama. We want that amazing body but we don’t want to sweat, we don’t want our muscles to hurt, we don’t want to wake up early and do the jogging in the cold, we don’t want to spend hours in the gym and make an effort to change our diet.
But the reality is, good life requires struggles.
If you want to have something good, you have to pick the struggles, the efforts, the challenges and the difficulties that come with it. You can only avoid the sweat while you keep being fat. The good life is usually just the outcome of dealing well with the bad things in life. The good-looking body is the outcome of dealing well with the sweat and the workout. The financial independence is the outcome of the infinite hours of hard work, risks, instability, uncertainty and the challenges that come with it. You rarely can have the one without the other.
The thing is that positive experience is easy to handle. It’s the negative experience, the struggles, which we all have to deal with. Usually, what we get in life is not determined by the good things we want, but by the challenges we are willing to handle that can get us to those good things that we want.
That’s why, if we want success and happiness, we have to ask ourselves “What challenges do I want to face?”, “What struggles am I willing to endure?” to have what you want. These questions will give you an idea about the price of the good life that you want for yourself. And most importantly, they will give you an idea about your willingness to pay that price. Do you want just the result, but don’t enjoy the process? Are you ready to run the race or you just want the gold reward? It’s very simple – if you want the benefits of something, you have to also be ready to accept the costs.
What do you choose to suffer through? That’s the question… the most important question…
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